Settling in at nursery: what to expect and how to help
Settling-in sessions give your child time to get to know their key person and new surroundings gradually. A gentle start makes a real difference.
2–4 weeks
Typical settling-in period
Short visits
Build up gradually
Comforter
Worth bringing from home
In this guide
How settling in usually works
Most nurseries offer two to five short sessions over one or two weeks. You'll often stay for the first visit, then leave for short periods that gradually get longer.
Your child's key person will ask about routines, comforters, likes and dislikes so they can mirror home as closely as possible.
Tips for a smoother transition
- Talk positively about nursery in the days before
- Bring a familiar comforter or family photo
- Share sleep, feeding and soothing routines in detail
- Keep goodbyes short, warm and consistent
- Always say goodbye, don't sneak away
- Ask for a quick update call or photo after drop-off
When to ask for more support
Every child settles at their own pace. If your child is still very distressed after a few weeks, talk to their key person about extending the settling period or adjusting the routine.
Questions parents often ask
Do I pay for settling-in sessions?
It depends on the nursery. Some offer them free, others charge. Ask before you book.
What if my child is still upset after a few weeks?
That's common. Talk to their key person about how the day goes after you leave. Most children settle within a few minutes of a parent going.